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Introduction
Too many of us are too stressed, too often.
This is simply a product of the world we live in. Most of us work extremely hard, performing a job that is highly stressful. We have deadlines, we have people shouting at us, we have threats of termination. And our lifestyles – probably the happiness and health of our family, or future family – is riding on our success.
We then commute home through busy streets/on a busy train. Then we have 20 chores to do when all we really want to do is to crash out in front of the TV. The baby is crying, friends are upset we can’t make it out, and the pile of plates on the sink is growing.
Meanwhile, we are all too aware of all the things that we should be doing, but can’t/aren’t. On Instagram, it seems that everyone is out there finding love or travelling the world. The covers of magazines show us perfect, beautiful people.
And heck, we’re not getting any younger!
To make ourselves feel better, we turn on the TV. There we hear about all the calamities happening all around the world and feel petrified by fright. Also, did you know that the very light from the television increases your production of cortisol – the primary stress hormone?
Oh, and that bag of chips you’re eating is only going to artificially spike your blood sugar, causing a subsequent crash and surge of cortisol.
So yeah – it’s a wonder that more of us aren’t in a state of permanent panic attack.
If you want to feel happier. If you want to actually enjoy your life.
And if you want to make positive progress to improving your situation moving forward…
If you want to do all of this, then you need to make sure that you are finding ways to overcome this stress. And I’m not necessarily talking long term – but short term even.
Here are five extremely simply things you can do right now that will immediately improve your sense of calm and help you to relax.
Read on and you will have five extremely powerful tools in your arsenal to calm the mind whenever you think it is necessary.
5 Powerful Strategies
Following are five extremely effective strategies for quickly feeling calmer and better. Find the one that works best for you, or use them in conjunction with one another for even greater effect.
Control Your Breathing
The first thing you can try doing is to control your breathing. This is highly effective due to the two-way link between your breathing, and your vagus nerve. The vagus nerve is a nerve that is highly responsible for the action of the autonomic nervous system – the part of your system that is responsible for handling such things as your fight or flight response. This includes the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems.
When you are in a state of fight or flight, your sympathetic nervous system goes into overdrive sensing danger. The result is that you start to breathe more quickly, blood gets delivered to your muscles and brain, your blood viscosity increases (to help clot wounds), and your thoughts start to race. From an evolutionary perspective, this should occur only when in physical danger – but today many other ‘low level’ things can set it off. The result is that we’re always a little tense and anxious.
At the other end of the spectrum, we have the parasympathetic system. This is responsible for the state known as ‘rest and digest’, which helps to increase anabolism (muscle and tissue building), to calm the mind, and to strengthen the immune system. This is the state we go into when we are fed and in no immediate danger. Breathing slows down, as does our heartrate.
Notice how the breathing an the heartrate are affected strongly in both cases. This occurs through that vagus nerve, but what’s interesting, is that you can also send the signal the other way: calm down your breathing, and you will also calm down the vagus nerve and the nervous system!
So if you find yourself hyperventilating and panicking, one of the very best things you can do to get yourself back under control is to try breathing more calmly.
This method is even used by the military and special forces, in what is known as ‘box breathing’. Box breathing is so called because it has ‘four sides’ or four seconds.
• Breathe in for four seconds
• Hold for four seconds
• Breathe out for four seconds
• Hold for four seconds
Do this for a couple of minutes and you’ll find that your heartrate slows down and your biochemistry changes in order to help you keep a more level head. This is ideal before an interview as well, and can even be useful in staving off a panic attack.
The rest of the time, it is important to ensure you employ deep ‘belly breathing’ which allows you to draw more air into the lungs and the abdominal cavity beneath them. Many of us have made a habit of shallow breathing only using the top of the lungs. This actually increases stress throughout the day. Kundalini meditation and yoga can help to teach you to correct this issue.