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Your life is a product of what you choose to believe. If you get an idea in your head and you truly believe it, you can bet that it's going to have an impact on how you feel about things, how you interpret reality, and what you choose to talk about. It also has a strong effect on how you emotionally respond to the things going on around you.
At the end of the day, the world doesn't care about your feelings, that much is true. But it does sit up and pay attention to what actions you take. It pays attention to what you do. And there is a tight link between how you choose to feel about certain things in your life and how you behave.
If you change your emotional and mental habits, you change your results. When you change your results, you change your destiny.
If you're reading this, you are feeling discontented, frustrated and imperfect. You're feeling way down. You're having a tough time accepting yourself. You have serious questions regarding where you are, the decisions you've made, and what you're about.
Unfortunately, you're not making things any better for yourself when you choose to believe in 8 things that hold you back and drag you down.
These 8 false beliefs sabotage you. They make you feel weak, dependent, flawed and lacking total control. The worst part is they corrode you over time.
This doesn't happen on a one-time, big time kind of basis. Instead, it seeps into you. It wears away your resolve over time. Much like an emotional and mental cancer.
Learn to identify and let go of these 8 false beliefs and you will be on a much better path through life.
Most Americans love the fiction that they are the captain of their personal ship of destiny. There's a romantic imagery that comes with that. You against the world. You, creating your own path.
Well, here's the problem: the more you believe that you have to be in control, the less in control you become.
Because let's face it, the world is a chaotic place. You can create, write down, or formulate the very best laid plans, and they will not pan out exactly as you planned them. That's just the way things work.
As the old saying goes, life is what happens when you're making other plans. And to believe that you always have to be in control, that everything has to take place based on how you planned it is the worst form of self sabotage.
Because life doesn't work that way. Often times, when we plan 100, we should be happy if we get 50. 50 is definitely quite an improvement from the 20 that you're usually getting. Do you see where I'm coming from?
And the problem is, this sense of control leads you to an impossible attachment to perfection. You feel that you're not really in control if things do not pan out exactly how you imagined them to be. Instead, accept the world for what it is instead of insisting on how it should be.
You have to understand that it's hard enough to change yourself, can you imagine trying to change other people? Can you imagine trying to change situations beyond your control?
Let go of this mental cancer of wanting to be always in control. Understand that the only thing you can control in this world is yourself and your response to what the world throws your way.
You don't have to respond based on your emotions. You don't have to let your feelings get the better of you. You can respond based on your values. You can respond based on the character you feel you have.
That is the essence of real control. None of this has to do with controlling what goes on around you because the world spins on its own axis. It has its own agenda.
The more you feel that you have to control everything and everyone around you, the more you lose control. You're taking time away from what you should be doing, which is to control your response and yourself.
Most people would not admit to this, but if you were to look at how they think and how they emotionally respond to things going on in their life, it would seem like there was a giant spotlight on them. They think that they live their lives on this giant stage.
Everybody's looking. Everybody cares. In fact, they think that everyone cares so much about what's going on in their life that they're afraid to make a mistake. One loose word, one false move, one misplaced statement, and everything falls apart.
This is why a lot of people are so afraid of truly being sincere. They feel they have to play a role. They have to meet some sort of standard that is acceptable to the most people most of the time.
In other words, they're living a lie. And this rooted from the fact that you think that you are so important, so vital, so essential, that everybody's looking at you.
Well, the truth is, nobody cares. Seriously. Everybody's got enough problems of their own.
Everybody can talk a good game, but at the end of the day, you are responsible for your life, and you alone. Not your parents, not your friends, not your community, not your classmates – you.