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INTRODUCTION

In order to protect their property, homeowners put up fences. This often discourages intruders from entering or destroying the land and home. Since this practice is seen in all cultures and histories, fencing your property is a great way to ensure that people don't damage or intrude on your home.

If you are willing to protect your physical property by putting up fences, why are you not willing to put up boundaries to protect yourself? Boundaries are invisible fences for your emotional, mental, and physical wellbeing. If you do not set up boundaries, people can easily infringe on your rights and make you feel disrespected.

Unfortunately, many people are clueless about how to set up boundaries and feel that setting boundaries makes them a bad person. This could not be further from the truth. In contrast, setting boundaries allows you to be better respected and creates healthier and happier relationships with those around you.

In this guide, we're going to look at the key factors for setting healthy boundaries. We begin by defining boundaries and learning how to set them. Then, we look at boundaries within your dating life, family, work, and yourself. After that, we address people who resist your boundaries and learn how to measure the success of your boundaries.

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Boundaries are imaginary lines that separate your physical space, feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others. These boundaries let other people know your expectations for how they should treat you. Without boundaries, people may take advantage of you or make you feel badly or uncomfortably.

Many people find setting boundaries to be difficult. The reason for this is that for the boundary to work, you must be willing to tell someone who has crossed a boundary that they are in the wrong. In other words, you must be able to stand up for yourself and confront another person.

Boundaries are imperative to having healthy relationships that are beneficial to both you and the other person. If you do not set and enforce your own boundaries, people may not know how to treat you. This is no fault of their own. If you do not tell others your boundaries, they will not be able to respect them. So, it is your responsibility to set and enforce your boundaries.

Why Do I Need Boundaries?

Boundaries are key to having happy and successful relationships with other people. There are several reasons why you need boundaries. Here are the most important:

1. Boundaries allow you to be your most authentic self When you create and enforce boundaries, you draw an invisible line between you and another person. As a result, you become a unique individual who is separate from everyone else. This allows you to have your own feelings, make your own decisions, and know what you need without trying to please others, allowing you to be your most authentic self.

2. Boundaries are self-care

One of the most important aspects of self-care is valuing and respecting your own needs and feelings. Creating boundaries means that you put your needs and emotions above the needs and emotions of someone else healthily and respectfully.

As a result, you focus on your needs instead of worrying about what someone else wants from you. This acts as a form of self-care because it allows you to cherish yourself by doing what you need and want.

3. Boundaries set realistic expectations with clear directions Whenever you set a boundary, you and the other party involved become explicitly aware of what is expected of each other. As a result, the relationship’s expectations become realistic and come with clear directions. Normally, people behave correctly when they know what is expected of them. So, setting boundaries and providing clear directions creates realistic expectations that all parties can respect.

4. Boundaries protect you emotionally and physically One of the most important reasons that you should set boundaries is that they protect you emotionally and physically. The reason for this is that boundaries tell you how you should be treated. If someone repeatedly breaks your boundaries, whether they be emotional or physical, you immediately know that that person does not care about you and your feelings.

As a result, you become keenly aware of who you should let into your life and who you should avoid. This allows you to protect yourself from uncomfortable or hurtful situations.

Types of Boundaries

Whenever you are starting to set your own boundaries, it is important to keep in mind the six general areas where boundaries apply. These different areas interact with different parts of your life and wellbeing. Here are the 6 types of boundaries:

Material Boundaries

material boundaries relate to physical objects such as money, clothes, books, a hairbrush, or anything else that is a physical object that you own. Material boundaries are expectations of how you and the other party should act whenever material objects are borrowed, sold, or jointly shared. It is important to set material boundaries so that friendships and relationships are not ruined over material objects.

Physical Boundaries

Physical boundaries relate to your personal space, privacy, and body. They set rules for how you and another party should interact on a physical relationship. These physical boundaries can range from appropriate settings to give a handshake versus a hug, when you expect a borrowed item to be returned, or how loud your roommate plays their music. Physical boundaries are different from sexual boundaries, which will be discussed later.

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Introduction

Most of us are very familiar with adversity, and the challenge of trying to not only survive in the face of it but to actually thrive despite the difficulties that we face.

From time to time, we all experience situations that are challenging, but finding ways to overcome those challenges by developing strength couldn’t be more important if we want to enjoy the best possible success in life.

Relentless drive is the answer. When we can find ways of boosting our ability to cope, even if nothing is going our way, we can become unstoppable. Grit and resilience lie at the heart of this. Persistence, perseverance, and perspective are all essential when we want to move forward in strength and success.

So, what are grit and resilience? And how can their power be harnessed to create the relentless drive that we need to thrive? In this book, we take a closer look at the importance of these things in our lives and examine how we can begin to develop them and hone them into a weapon that we can then use to our best advantage.

When we know how grit and resilience can help us in different areas of our lives, and we know how we can foster those skills and put them into practice, we can stand the best chance of success both in our personal lives and in the workplace.

Chapter 1: Grit, Resilience, and the Growth Mindset – A Key Trio There are two different mindsets that we can experience – fixed or growth. The fixed mindset involves believing that your qualities cannot be changed and are set in stone. Meanwhile, the growth mindset involves believing that you can cultivate your own basic qualities through your own efforts. Often, individuals have a fixed mindset about one aspect of their lives but have a growth mindset about another. Maybe you’ve always thought you were bad at math and believed that others were born with an innate ability to calculate. However, you are confident about your musical talent and seek opportunities to showcase it as often as you can. You believe that it’s a skill you can develop over time with practice. Every time you show off your talent and get positive feedback, you use it to improve. You’re motivated to carry on practicing and perfecting your abilities.

With this in mind, it’s easy to see why having a fixed mindset holds you back, preventing you from taking opportunities that are presented to you. But, how can a growth mindset be developed? The answers lie in grit and resilience. These three things work together to form a key trio that sets you up to overcome adversity and achieve success in your life.

Gaining Perspective for Growth Increases Resilience

When you exhibit resilience, you can step back from challenging situations, accepting their negative elements while finding meaning and opportunity, even in the middle of adversity. When you find opportunities, you strive harder, set more ambitious goals and take the necessary actions to achieve those goals. Perspective plays a major role in this. When you look at things from a more positive standpoint, your resilience can be greatly increased. Let’s take a look at why. When you take a positive perspective, your choice options expand exponentially. You become empowered rather than disabled. You can begin to focus your efforts on the things that you’re able to change while accepting those that you cannot. With a positive perspective, you naturally become more resilient because of your acceptance of negativity. When you accept that bad things happen and sometimes there’s nothing you can do to change them, but that instead, you can harness your own potential to change those things that are possible to alter yourself, you are given the power to improve your life.

You become more able to cope with problems and overcome adversity because you understand that you are the one thing in life you can control, and when you’re able to take control over any aspect of your life you can take action to improve your circumstances. Meanwhile, being able to accept the things you can’t change without frustration, anger or fear allows you to be more at peace with the challenging elements of your life.

Confidence and Motivation Boost Grit for Growth

Everyone stumbles occasionally on the path to success, and that means you’ll need at some point to get back up again and back in the saddle. So, how can you find the strength to do this? The answer is by developing resilience and grit for growth. Unforeseen surprises and shocks are a fact of life, but if you can maintain your integrity and core purpose even in the face of those unpleasant experiences, you can overcome adversity most effectively. Grit for growth lies at the center of this.

Grit for growth is a dynamic blend of confidence and motivation. These two things work together to empower you to regulate your emotions and reappraise the situations in which you find yourself. When you believe you can find a meaningful purpose in your life, believe you can influence your own environment and the outcome of events that affect you, and believe that both negative and positive experiences alike can lead to growth and learning, you can develop the kind of grit that leads to resilience. With resilience and grit, you can move forward and persevere, whatever obstacles you’re facing in life. You can begin to believe the saying “everything will come out right in the end, and if everything isn’t right, it isn’t the end.”

5 Steps to Developing a Growth Mindset for Relentless Drive

Are you ready to develop a growth mindset so you can have the relentless drive you need to succeed? Then here are five steps for you to follow:

1. Focus on your choice of language. This works whether you’re trying to boost someone else’s growth mindset or your own. When you praise yourself or another person for a strength or characteristic, make sure you use words that emphasize a growth mindset. Instead of thinking or saying, “you’re so smart” or “you’re so flexible”, instead, praise for strategy or effort.

Telling yourself you’re intelligent fosters the fixed mindset. Telling yourself that you’ve put in a lot of effort and used strategy to your advantage fosters resilience. It reminds you that you have a key role to play when it comes to achieving a successful solution to your problems.

2. Surround yourself with positivity. Thoughts become reality. Although you can’t choose everyone you interact with every day, you can spend time with certain people intentionally. When you create an environment of positive thinking, growth mindset becomes the norm. You start to see view everything around you as supporting you instead of thwarting your efforts.

3. Adopt flexible patterns of thinking. If you become less rigid in your actions and thoughts, grit and resilience can blossom. Flexible people never see problems.

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If you have valuable knowledge in a niche that is in demand you can make a significant income as an online coach. A lot of people try to do this but they do not earn the income that they are looking for because they do not approach things in the right way.

In this guide we will show you how to start a profitable online coaching business. Because it is easy to start online coaching a lot of people dive right in and do not get the results that they were expecting. You have to have the right mindset to be a successful online coach. Without this you are doomed to failure. We will show you in this guide the mindset that you need and how you can develop it.

Having a plan for your online coaching business is very important. Without a plan you will never know if you are truly succeeding or not. We will show you exactly what you need to include in your plan so that you have the best chance of success.

You need to make the right impression as an online coach and this starts with your website. There is no need to spend a lot of money on a fancy website. It just needs to be professional and we will explain what you need.

To make a healthy profit you need to attract the right clients. We have proven methods in this guide that will help you to find those clients. You will see that you have a number of options here. Some will require a small investment while others are free and will require effort on your part.

There are a number of ways that you can grow your online coaching business and we have some good ideas for you in this guide. We also provide you with details of some useful tools that will help you to manage your online coaching business effectively.

With the advances in technology you now have a number of different ways to connect with people across the globe. People that are looking for coaches of all kinds can now find them very easily online. They have the freedom to find a coach that will really meet their needs who they will get on well with.

There are many people looking for online coaches that have the knowledge and experience to help them. If you specialize in a niche that is in demand, such as digital marketing, then if you follow the advice in this guide you will not find it difficult to obtain clients. You need to keep them happy of course which we will discuss later.

Does being an Online Coach suit you?

Anybody can start an online coaching business today. That doesn’t mean that it is a good fit for everybody. Do you have expertise in a particular niche? If so then you certainly qualify as an online coach.

There is no doubt that if you enjoy teaching others what you know then an online coaching business is a great way to do it. You can set your own schedule and work whenever you want to form anywhere in the world.

But you need to remember that you will always have to find new clients to make the whole thing profitable for you. There are different ways you can do this which we will cover in a later chapter. It is rare that finding a small number of clients will be enough to sustain a full time online coaching business.

There are a number of courses available online that will teach you how to be a successful online coach. You can even obtain certificates from professional bodies to back up what you are doing. Online coaching is a great business to be in but you need to be prepared to provide the highest quality service to your clients and make a significant profit at the same time.

It helps you to Grow

When you decide to become an online coach it will do a great deal for your own professional and personal growth. If you are an expert in your subject there is always more to learn and you will be committed to doing this so that you can provide your clients with the most up to date and useful information.

It is very satisfying to teach others what you know and to help them achieve their own goals. You will need to be a good communicator, and as you perform more coaching you will refine your communication skills. Dealing with all different kinds of people will open your mind and help you to develop as a person.

To be a good online coach you need to be disciplined and organized. If you commit to a coaching session with a client at a specific time then you have to be on time. You should plan out your coaching sessions to ensure that your clients get the best from them and feel like they have received a lot of value from you.

There is Good Money in Online Coaching

Online coaches charge hundreds if not thousands of dollars for personal coaching. If you are coaching several different people at the same time then you can charge on a per person basis which will bring you in a good amount of money.

Most people never turn what they know into hard cash. This is exactly what an online coach does. They are happy to provide their knowledge to others in return for a significant sum of money. Experts in the digital marketing niche can charge thousands for an hour of their time. The same goes for coaches in personal development and life coaching.

When you are starting out you will need to charge less than this but an hour of your time can still be worth hundreds of dollars. By providing personal one on one attention to individual clients they will appreciate this and will reward you handsomely for it. As long as you are providing good value people will be happy to pay you what you want.

Create your own Schedule

You decide when you will work. Obviously you need to be around when your clients are and if they are in different countries then you need to plan for the differences in time zones. With today’s technology you can send out reminders to your clients and use the Internet for all of your coaching sessions. It is fairly easy for you to tell your clients when you are available for coaching. You need to be flexible here and make yourself available to your clients when it suits them. Some of them may have full time jobs and only be available at evenings and weekends. What you can definitely control is the number of coaching sessions that you provide in a day.

Very Easy to get started

You probably have all of the tools that you need to become an online coach right now. A laptop or desktop computer and an Internet connection and you are ready to go. Some online coaches claim that they can provide online sessions when they are on the move by using a tablet device. This is not something that we would recommend when you are starting out.

Clients will expect you to communicate with them using a messenger service such as Skype, Zoom, Facebook etc. You could offer your clients the choice of platform for your sessions. All of these services are free and you can even record the sessions that you have with your clients (there may be a small charge for this).

Everyone has email so you can use this as another communications medium. We recommend that you setup Google Drive or some other cloud service so that you can share materials with your clients. If you need them to see video footage then this will often be too large a file to send via email. Then there is texting. You can send text messages anywhere in the world for very little these days. If your client likes this form of communication then ask them for their phone number and provide yours as well.

We recommend that you go for the best Internet package that you can for your coaching business. It is also a good idea to have a backup service as well. If your Internet access is down then you cannot provide coaching sessions. This is not going to go down well with your clients so always have a backup plan.

With high bandwidth Internet access you can hold video calls and easily share your computer screen for demonstrations etc. Your clients will appreciate this as you are really helping them to learn what you know. Most people appreciate over the shoulder training.

In the next chapter we will discuss the mindset you need to become a successful online coach… People often think that they need some special “insider knowledge” to become a successful and profitable online coach. This is not the case. What you do need is the right mindset to make a success out of online coaching.