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Chapter 6: Authentically Happy Affirmation
Synopsis
I'm an authentic, FREE and confident person!
Building True Happiness
Humans all want to be happy at some plane. We're almost always on an uninterrupted journey to seek satisfaction. All the same we don't always know where to look, what to do, or yet what it would be to make us really happy.
Happiness can be discovered in many outside things. Business success, money, food, cars, intoxicants, the opposite sex... Individuals will smile and say that all these things bestow joy. But the trouble with outside items is that they're temporary. Those forms of outside sources will finally disappear and won't matter much when your time on this world is over.
But inner happiness can last for long time periods. On your hunt for happiness, you have to begin inside. Consider moments when you may say nice things about yourself or had a really clean good time. What did you do to feel good? Was it the income you earned, or was it that you made your youngster smile by paying for a new toy? Was it the food that you consumed, or was it the company you were with that partook in the meal with you? Outside objects that bring felicity to you are frequently extensions of an inner need.
Once you've received some self-awareness of "what" makes you happy, consider what you do or feel for other people that makes them happy. Most individuals will feel some form of compassion for others and want to do things to help them feel fine. We even share in others' joy. Consider how some individuals cheer when a puppy is reclaimed from being stuck in a ditch or when a cat is reclaimed from a tree. Many of us have had a pet once and can feel the pain and, more significantly, delight when somebody gets their pet back. When you realize who or what you feel the most compassion for, you'll begin to have a sense of direction on what to do to accomplish that happiness.
Begin to "do something" about accomplishing that happiness you felt through compassion. There are infinite stories about individuals who quit their high-paying jobs to go after simple dreams just because of the joy they get. Many of those simple dreams involve making others happy.
And don't talk yourself out of it by utilizing negative speak. Stating things like "I'll never be able to" or "I'm not good enough" might lead you right back to the impermanent happiness objects. If your happiness comes from food, think about making the meal yourself or making one for a homeless person. If you like partying with acquaintances, host a birthday party for a youngster and invite them along.
By beginning with yourself, shining it on others and taking action, you'll be on your way to real happiness.
Chapter 7: Meeting New People Affirmation
Synopsis
I can meet
Bring New People To Your Life
There are a few easy ways to make yourself more accessible, and put others at ease around you.
All right, so once again you're sitting someplace alone in a room full of individuals. Don't fret! A couple of behaviors might need to be altered, but you are able to meet people. Drawing in a potential mate (or even just a fresh friend) is human nature. Regrettably, society can make us a little afraid to speak up and say hi. Here are a couple of tricks to meeting people.
Consider your posture: Do you slump? Sit strained or hunched forward? This states: Please leave me alone, either I’m afraid of the world or I detest everything. Sit up unbent, but not ridged. Loosen up your shoulders and legs. Try not to frown unknowingly. You would like to present other people with the image of yourself as a content, at ease individual.
Sitting loosened up, you notice somebody magnetic. Look their direction without moving anything but your eyes. Are they looking back? Smile lightly. Not too wide, but not thin lipped either. Make that smile genuine--think about a pet song that never fails to cheer you up, and let that same smile form on your face to share with a fresh individual.
Did they grin back? If they did or didn’t it doesn't truly matter (unless they established a look that signals ’Back off’).
Now to advance. Keep that smile, and introduce yourself! Are you both reading in a coffeehouse? Go up and discover what the person is reading, since you're "looking to extend your literary concerns."
At a party and some is seated alone? Go up and ask to keep them company since you "weren't speaking to anybody at the moment."
I encourage you to utilize your own words to play off whatever the other individual might be doing.
Keep the conversation easy; no babble of exes, party gossip, government unless the other individual brings the subject up, and even then step cautiously. Be open to their beliefs, but feel free to state your own—nobody likes a fraud.
Laugh lightly in appropriate spots, lean towards the other individual when discussing something intriguing (keep at any rate 1 1/2 feet of distance between you unless they move closer however, this seems to fit most comfort zones), and let your face be expressive and unstrained.
Be earnest in your conversation. Most individuals can tell who isn't being earnest, and no one is worth altering who you are.
Don't monopolise anybody; if the conversation has been beneficial for three straight minutes, give them your number and excuse yourself. You never want to look dire or clingy.
What's the worst that might occur? They don't telephone? So what? Do this with at least one individual a day, and you'll have luck in making fresh associations!