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Setting your goal can be nice way for you in improving your performance. But this is not for the cases when you fall out in a spiteful little side-effect.
Let's take dieting for example. Consider that you have set a daily amount of calorie intake and you are planning to keep this for some days but unexpectedly, your peers brought you to a restaurant one day. That resulted to a situation wherein you are having a meal in restaurant, rather than a healthy one at home. And before arriving there, your group dropped by to a bar to buy and eat some snacks and drinks. By that time, you are already near to your calorie intake boundary. Then, inside the restaurant, you have decided to have some bread and drink rather than the other menus. You have also decided to order salad, but there is something that attracts you to have a steak menu. Then, you will realize that you have already violated the amount of calorie intake that you are suppose to have. What the hell, you will take the steak menu.
This gives you the picture that sometimes as you go along in reaching you goal, things unexpectedly go out of the window as you enjoy a moment of madness.
The "what the hell effect" is not just a momentary lapse or a sudden lack of self control. Instead, it is greatly related into missing a goal. This has been discovered by the expert psychologists in their proficient studies.
Everyone should avoid this what-the-hell effect. The what-the-hell effect is not just applicable for dieters, it also related in setting your goals. It can be about shopping, money, alcohol or other areas into which you have set your limitations. It is always expected that when you have this limitation, you will do all your best to maintain it during the first days. But later, loses control over it.
In order to fight back against this what-the-hell effect, it is important that you should know the situations when this effect takes place.
When you have set short term goals like tomorrow or today, compared to those next month or next week and you are trying to do something in order to stop a bad habit, these are the times that the what-the-hell effect should be considered.
The statement above suggests that you must establish longer-term goals and transforming such goals from the inhibition aspect into the acquisition aspect. Maybe you will think that transforming goals from short terms to longer terms will be easy but transforming such goals from inhibitional into acquisitional will be of different degree.
An example of this case is the alcoholic individuals. Alcoholics are surely trying to quit from drinking which is an inhibitional goal, but this goal is transformed into an acquisitional type when they are going to consider the number of days they are sober. With this case, they will be trying to have more nondrinking days as much as possible.
This method can be use by many people, like the dieters. They can consider the number of days instead of other things. Others like the procrastinators can forget for a while about idling and focus more in producing certain quantity of work daily.
Reframing your goal with the same way will give you a great opportunity of eliminating one problem and keeping on with the process of setting and achieving your goal.
SHIFTING FOCUS
All through your life, have you ever experienced thinking of something that you really want to achieve? Have you ever been working for a goal within a short period of time limitation and confused on what you are about to focus, which often result to the unfulfillment of your goal? And when that time comes, you wish that you have exerted more effort in order to obtain that objective.
Maybe the main reason for those failures is that you shifted your focus to the other things that interests you instead of the goal that you have. The following are some tips for you in order to avoid such happenings. These will help you focus more on your way to the goal as you improve yourself as well.
Be creative and critical in making your overall lifetime plan. When it is clear to you of what and who you want to be someday, it will be easy for you to get in there. Once you know the thing or the happenings that you want to occur, you can plan and think about the procedure that you are going to follow as you go along.
Have one room of improvement each time. Avoid making necessary improvements simultaneously. It will be wise for you to take an action of improving one aspect only at a time. Concentrate as you do necessary steps in attaining your goal daily. Then you can start another procedure right after the previous one.
Take time to reflect. Think about the reasons of why you want to obtain an objective. Knowing about this will take you one step nearer towards your goal. Make sure that you really know what you want to achieve.
Write them down in anywhere. If you have cards or a notebook, list your entire goals with regard to your daily schedule. They will serve as timely reminders for you and will make you more consistent of attaining the goals that you have. You can also have them in your devices. How often you use such things determines also how frequent you will be reminded of.
Have a well defined schedule in working toward your goal. When and what kind of activities you are going to employ. The time, the place and the type of situation that you are going to have. You can set alarms to your devices in order to remind you of the time that you must take necessary actions for the goal.
If you have missed or skipped a goal for almost two weeks, have time to go back to them. If you have been very busy doing important things for the past few day, don't lose hope and continue what you have started in the past. It is never wrong to pursue things as long as it is not yet too late.