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While you can take many steps to improve your self confidence on your own, sometimes it may be in your best interest to call on the help of a confidence-building professional. There are many options available, depending on your personal comfort-level and needs.
Motivational speakers may seem cheesy and overly excited at first glance, but they may be able to provide you with just the push you need to feel more confident. Their specialty is in getting people pumped up, and isn't that, in effect, what you need to do - get pumped up about yourself? You can attend a one-time speech or set off for a weekend seminar or conference. You can usually find CDs, tapes, DVDs or videos of the most popular motivational speakers, but you will lose something of the dynamics of a live performance. Still, this option may fit your budget better.
Life coaches are a relatively new offering in the motivational field. They aren't licensed therapists; they are simply professionals who have taken it upon themselves to help others reach their full potential. Think of a life coach as having a highly motivated and inspirational friend on your side. Your life coach may meet with you in person or discuss your goals during phone consultations as they help you improve any area of your life, building your confidence.
One often forgotten resource in seeking counseling and guidance is religious professionals. If you follow a religion, you can turn to your priest, pastor, rabbi, deacon or other respect figure for advice. While most suggestions will naturally have a religious component to them, suggesting prayer and Bible study for instance, religious professionals are qualified to offer suggestions for any area of your life.
There are entire sections of self-help books in every bookstore. Even if a book doesn't deal specifically with self-confidence, general tips on improving your life may still be helpful. You may also find that you have certain aspects of your personality or appearance that you feel the need to change before you can feel confident. There is sure to be a book related to your individual need. Some books offer specific plans and worksheets for achieving your goals, others provide inspirational stories of others who have achieved the intended goal, while the best combine the two.
There are so many titles, though, that the selection may be daunting. You can ask your acquaintances for recommendations, ask workers at the bookstore if they have any favorites, or simply select the most popular book, perhaps the one you've seen featured in a newspaper article or television program. Some of the most well-known self-help books become bestsellers, especially if they come with the endorsement of a celebrity like Oprah Winfrey.
Speaking of Oprah and her talk-show-host kin, while they don't provide one-on-one assistance, they can be another source of inspiration as you work to build your self-confidence. Every day stories of struggle are broadcast directly into your home. Sometimes these struggles are cheap and tawdry, but often they depict troubled people who just need a little help finding the right path. Even if you find yourself disgusted by the antics of the guests with confidence problems, you can always wait for the professional opinions that are sprinkled throughout.
Consider the therapists' advice and take note of strategies that you think might work in your life, even if it seems like the guests aren't going to do so.
If your self confidence problems are so severe that they don't respond to positive thinking techniques, motivational reading and drawing inspiration from others, then perhaps you need to see a therapist or other licensed mental health professional. Sometimes people avoid getting much-needed help because they feel like there is a stigma behind being depressed or suffering from a chemical imbalance. There is nothing wrong with seeing a psychiatrist if it helps you feel better about yourself and puts you on the road to self-confidence.
Building confidence can be a struggle. As you journey towards better self-confidence, make sure to use every tool at your disposal, including the help of professionals.