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5 Steps to Overcoming Shyness

Shyness can be debilitating. It can prevent us from living an adventurous life; it can hold us back from getting a promotion, making the presentation, taking the chance on someone we find attractive and interesting.

In many cases, a mental health professional or hypnotherapist can alter these be-haviors. In the meantime, there are certain things that you can do on your own to take control over your shyness and keep it from interfering with the life you want to lead.

Where should you begin?

1. Ask where the stress is coming from. Note whether it’s because you have to give a speech on Friday, or your crush is sitting too close. What is the core of this feeling? What you’re experiencing is often the symptom of a deeper prob-lem. For instance:

• Often shyness comes from a poor self-image, imagining others are more im-portant than you are. • You’re overly worried about the way others perceive you. • You’ve been labeled “shy” for so long you’ve accepted it as truth.

2. Accept that you’re shy. Be comfortable with it. The harder you fight it, the stronger it gets and the more trouble you’ll have interacting with the world. 3. Realize when the shyness kicks in. Are you shy around everyone or only the people who matter to you? What about when talking to someone whose opin-ion doesn’t matter? Shyness is rarely ever a 100% all-encompassing problem; it varies in intensity depending on the situation.

4. Start writing things down. When do the symptoms happen? What are you do-ing? Where are you? Who are you with? Order them by severity. When was the worst attack? When was the least?

5. Now that you have the list start working through the triggers. Capture a dozen or so examples and sort them by severity and start at the bottom, with the least stressful situations. The only way to conquer a fear is by facing it. If the least stressful situation on your list was having to talk to a coworker, then strike up a conversation with them. If the least stressful incident on your list is talking to a stranger, pay someone a compliment on what they’re wearing.

Start with the least stressful things on your list until you’re accustomed to facing these situations. By getting in some practice, you’re going to notice how good it feels to accomplish this task. Once you’re more comfortable with the process, you’ll have a better chance to conquer the larger, more intimidating items.

Facing your fears makes them smaller and less frightening. You can do this. Just give yourself the chance.

10 Techniques to Move from Shy to Self-Confident

Shyness can be debilitating, especially in a work environment. It can also be over-come, but it takes some time and effort. Consulting with a therapist might be indi-cated if the shyness is extreme, as it could be a sign of Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD).

There are steps to reducing shyness. Practice these steps every day, and the shy-ness will begin to dwindle and even dissipate.

1. You may think that you radiate shyness, that it’s written all over your face, but you’d be wrong. Most won’t realize you’re shy if you don’t mention it. Not that it’s anything to be ashamed of, just don’t mention it.

2. Keep it light. Yes, shyness can be crippling and severe, but if you’re ques-tioned, laugh it off or treat it as no big deal. Others take their cues from you. If you’re not concerned, they won’t be either.

3. Does shyness have secondary symptoms such as blushing, nervousness, short-ness of breath? Admit to the obvious but separate that from being shy. “I’ve always been a bit nervous in new situations. This is just normal for me.”

4. Let yourself shine through Avoid the well-meaning person who introduces you to others as “shy” or “quiet,” Don’t rely on labels, let yourself be you. You are more than a single trait.

5. Calm the voice in your head that kicks you when you’re down. We all make mistakes, and we all occasionally act the fool. That’s ok to do once in a while, but don’t let that voice in your head hold you back.

6. Write down what’s the best and brightest about you. Get someone to help. In-telligence, creativity, easy-going manner – all of these are positive traits. Write them down and when that voice tries to drag you down again, go over them. Remind yourself how great you are.

7. Take a good look at how you feel around your friends. Are you positive and en-ergized or do you question yourself when you’re with them? Be honest. You cannot grow if you are surrounded by people who constantly tell you how in-adequate you are.

8. Avoid the bullies. There will ever be those who would bully you, would drag you down. These are relatives, coworkers, toxic relationships that convince you how far you are from perfection.

9. Look at others, the ones that seem bold and self-confident. What do they do, how do they react? What can you do differently? Emulate the best of their be-haviors. 10. Forgive yourself. You’ll make mistakes; you’ll fall on your face. That’s how things are. Don’t let one mistake derail your efforts.

These are basic beginning steps to help pull you out of the shyness spiral. Keep in mind; you may want to talk to a behavioral health specialist for the bigger issues. Am I Shy or Just an Introvert?

Some people are shy, while others are described as introverts. Is there a differ-ence?

Yes, there is, and those differences are important if you want to change. Working with shyness is very different than working with someone who’s introverted. But does it matter? Is it a bad thing to be shy or introverted?

If you’re happy with where you are in life, then there’s no motivation or even rea-son to change. But if you want to work on your social and professional relation-ships, if you want to interact and talk to people with confidence, then it’s proba-bly time to do something about it. And to do that, it’s important to know the what it means to be shy vs. what it is to be an introvert. How do you find out? First, ask yourself a couple of questions.

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