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Introduction
No. It's a word that only has one syllable and two letters, yet it can be one of the most difficult words to say. Since we were little, we are taught that saying no is a negative thing that hurts people and causes us to miss out on new opportunities. With this in mind, it's no wonder that our society feels uncomfortable telling people no.
Saying no is not a bad thing though, and learning when to say it will allow you to take back control of your life. To learn how to say no, read on.
Reclaiming Your Right To Say No
Though it may sound odd, you have every right to say no whenever you want. You have absolutely no obligation to do things that make you feel stressed or unsafe. For this reason, it is important to reclaim your right to say no so that you can take back control over your life.
Whenever you reclaim your right to say no, you should expect to experience a number of great benefits. Here are some things that might happen when you learn to say no:
Decrease stress Decrease burnout Less resentment
Enjoy your life more
Enjoy your relationships more Increase energy
Increase productivity
Since saying no can lead to any of these benefits, it is imperative to reclaim your right. Get rid of the notion that saying no is harmful or hurtful to yourself and others. Instead, rewrite the narrative so that saying no is a valid response in any situation that you feel stressed or disrespected.
Why Can’t I Say No?
If we have a right to say no and it leads to a number of great benefits, then why is it so difficult to say no? The answer is very simple. As humans, we often put other people's needs above our own. We do this because we want to reassure the people around us and make them feel comfortable and appreciated.
Obviously, the desire to make someone feel appreciated and safe is a good desire to have. The issue is when making someone feel appreciated and safe makes you feel unappreciated and in harm's way. So, it is important to learn how to discern between the two scenarios.
How To Decide To Say No
The best way to discern between these scenarios is learning when and how to say no. Obviously, there are instances when you may not feel like doing something but you absolutely need to. For example, you may not feel like doing laundry, but you need to do your laundry so you can have clean clothes and be healthy and presentable. With that being said, there are many instances when you ought to say no.
How To Decide To Say No
So, you have found yourself in a situation where you are unsure if you should say yes or no. Here are some guidelines to help you think about whether or not to say no to a request:
1. Don’t respond immediately
If you are unsure if you have the time, energy, or resources to fulfill a request, do not respond right away. The worst thing you can do is say yes immediately, but then realize that you're incapable of fulfilling the task. Instead of responding immediately, ask if you can get back to them by the end of the day. Most scenarios will not be time-sensitive. So, you have time to reflect on whether or not you truly have the time and energy to take on this new task.
2. Think about your motivations
While you are considering whether or not to take on another project, think about your motivations. Would you say yes to the project purely out of obligation? Or do you truly want to take on the task? If you are only saying yes out of a sense of obligation, then you should probably say no.
3. Assess your schedule
If you want to take on the task, you then need to assess your schedule and truly take a hard look at whether or not you have enough time to commit to the project. When you're looking at your schedule, look at other work projects, family projects, and self-care time. You do not want to feel overworked or stretched thin by taking on another project.
If you found that your schedule is open for another project and you are excited about this task, then say yes. There is no reason why you should not take on another event or project. If your schedule is overbooked though, you should say no to the project even if it is one that excites you.
How To Say No
Assume that you have found yourself in a scenario in which you have to tell someone no. To many people, this can be extremely confusing and anxiety-inducing, but it does not have to be. Instead, you have the right to say no without guilt or anxiety.
Whenever you are telling someone no, make sure that you are kind and respectful. You do not want to come across like you are angry at the person or that you do not care about the situation or project. It is imperative that you are respectful and kind throughout the entire conversation.
At the same time, you must be assertive. You have nothing to feel guilty for. So, you do not need to be hesitant, resistant, or apologize for saying no. Stand firm in your response to show that you cannot be coaxed into taking on the project.
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