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3: Write a great profile, with a great pic.
Onceyou have chosen the dating site that is rightfor you, it's time to get started. Thefirstthingto do is write yourself up a great profile, with a great picture of yourself. I n the online dating world, this profile is your introduction and your first impression. Makesureit reflects whoyou are, and whatyou are lookingfor in a date.
Think about what is most important to you. Think about the things you absolutely love, and mention each of them in your profile. It is important that any potential dates understand the things that are mostfirmly a part of you, that aren't going to disappear from your life any time soon! Also, think about the things you dislike -those things you absolutely do not want in your life. You don't want to find yourself on a date with someone that dislikes whatyou like and likes what you don't. Get the things that are most important to you out in the open straight away, so that the right kind of person can accurately match themselves to you from the beginning.
Tryto let your personality come through. Imaginethatyou haveactually met someone for the firsttime in real life, and writedown what you would want to say to them. We often find ourselves wishing we'd had the time to think of the perfect thing to say to that new love interest when we first met - this is your chance to avoid those stumbles and make sure you say exactly what you really want to.
Find or take a great picture of yourself, as this will be the firstthing people will see when browsing the dating site. Make sure your photo is current-the last thing you want is to make anyone feel you are misleading them about any part of who you are. If you can, invest in a professional photographer to putyou in your best light. Some photographers specialize in photos for dating sites, so take a look around your local area and see what you find.
4: Take your time
Now that you are all setup and ready to start browsingfor potential dates, remember that this is not a race or a competition. There is no point in rushing in and arranging real world dates with someone you're not sure of. Sit back and browse slowly and casually, without pressuring yourself. You are looking for someone you can trust, and with whom you can build a strong relationship.
There is no need to take risks, just hold off until you see a profile that really piques your interest, and you find yourself saying "Wow, this person sounds great!" You have all the time in the world, so wait until you're comfortable and allow yourself to make good choices.
5: Honesty, honesty, honesty
Once you do find someone that takes your eye, that you wantto know more about, the key thing to remember is honesty, honesty, honesty. This means both not intentionally misleading the person you are talking to, and also not being afraid to be clear about who you are as a person.
Don't overstate or understate things aboutyourself in orderto be more impressive, such as salary, fitness, age and so on. No healthy relationship was ever built on anything apart from complete trust. You need to show the person from the beginning that you are true to your word. Adhering to this rule is as simple as being yourself.
Also, don't be afraid to be clear about things that are importantto you. Don't hold back on what you really think and feel, justbecauseyou are concerned the person you are interacting with may not like it. The truth is that if a person doesn't like what you really think and feel, you want to know about it as soon as possible, as it means they are not the one for you. This is one of the many benefits of finding a partner online -the ability to get it all out in the open up front without fear. The earlier you can determine that you are not suited the better, as it will free you up to find a partner who you are suited with. Online dating can thus save a lot of time and heartache.
Be consistently open and honest and you will find the perfect date that much faster.
6: Listen attentively & go question for question
As much as you want a potential date to know who you are, it is also very important to let them know you wantto learn about who they areas well. The rule of thumb is to listen closely to everything the person tells you, without rushing them or interrupting them, and to ask them a question for every question they ask you.
Try to think of questions that will gather the most insight into the person you are talking to. Here are a few example questions that you can weave into your initial conversations:
Q. What do you think are the biggest mistakes people make in relationships?
This will tell you a lot about the person's previous relationship experiences without you havingto ask directly. Their answer will not only give you insight into any sore points that you should bear in mind when dealing with the person, it may potentially alert you to possible issues if they happen to raise any points that may relate or be integral to your own personality. Again, be honest with the information you learn.
Q. What is most important to you in a partner?
This question is a great way to find out whatthe person is really lookingfor in a partner, and to hear about things that might not have made their way into their carefully written profile. Asking a person to describe on the fly what matters mostto them is the best way to get an honest answer.
Q. (Put this gently) So, why is a nice person like you single at the moment?
You can rephrasethis question in a number of ways to ensure that it doesn't make the person feel bad when you ask it, but it is a good question to ask since it offers a good way to find out some important factors abouttheir background and lifestyle.
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