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CHAPTER 6 - HOW TO SURVIVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH A PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE PARTNER

Tension in any relationship is tough to deal with especially if you have to deal with a passive aggressive partner, and most people would agree that this kind of relationship is a recipe for disaster in the intimacy department, but things are not always as they might seem to the untrained mind.

There are ways of dealing with the dramas that threaten an intimate relationship, but if you really want the intimacy to survive the storm then you'll need to adapt to a new way of thinking. Instead of challenging your partner, you can fine-tune your listening skills until you can hear what's beneath the deception and the indirectness.

Ultimately this type of strategizing will improve your general awareness of your partner, allowing you to know what the triggers are for their behaviour.

Intimate relationships are sensitive due to their nature and the expectancy level of both lovers which naturally adds strain to a dysfunctional relationship that is void or lacking in communication. Lovers should know this well, as an intimate night that is supposed to be full of romance is usually communicated by the loving couple without conversation - but instead, subtle actions and gestures that are intended to speak volumes with energy and not with talk.

Well, the same is true when dealing with your passive aggressive partner; be subtle instead of becoming rowdy, listen with your emotions and not just with your ears, observe without making a scene, study what you learn from your partner and don't try to use what you've learned against them, but instead, you can use your new knowledge to help support them.

Practice new methods for communicating effectively and always remind yourself of how much you love your partner - just to soften the emotional blows that they'll indirectly throw your way from time to time. Show no fear and don't back down, be firm but fair.

Avoid all arguments with clear and to-the-point communication; never mumbling your point across, but always being clear and concise, with much eye contact and a soft tone of voice, allowing enough time for a response from your partner; there is no point in talking over them as this will provoke a harsh and negative response.

Make mental notes of the best times to share your findings with your partner - there's no sense in trying to engage them with your observations if you can perceive that it's a bad time for such discussions. You should know the majority of your partners' idiosyncrasies and which times are best to approach them for a meaningful conversation.

The more you share your concerns in a light-hearted manner the more you'll be able to engage in a healthier relationship that is open and fair.

Many relationships fail due to poor communication, so it is most important to set this as a priority instead of arguing or challenging indirect behaviour from a passive aggressive partner. Always explain yourself with as little fluff as is possible. If you want to be understood by your partner then you have to be heard by them first, and this means accepting their faults.

Yes this is so very difficult to do, but without acceptance there is no change - well, not for the better anyway. Remember that there is always a root-cause for why a person is a passive aggressive, you need to be calm enough to pace yourself in making a positive difference to your relationship, and it will get easier if you can maintain your efforts without getting too frustrated to the point of quitting.

CHAPTER 7 - HOW TO DEAL WITH PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR IN THE FAMILY

Families can display the characteristics of passive aggressive behaviour from time to time, but what about the family member who is a passive aggressive? If you are part of a tight or a close-knit family then it is hard keep everyone happy all at once. You'll need to know the origins of the passive family member and whether or not they're aware of their disorder, if you're going to attempt to make a positive change to their life.

If the passive aggressive relative is aware of their disorder then you can try to work with them to bring about a team effort, which is a great way to start effectively communicating in ways that demonstrate your caring nature and your enthusiasm in helping them through their challenge.

Always remember to record the slightest difference in attitude and behaviour with the passive aggressive and bring it to their attention - especially if it is a positive change that's occurred, this will enlighten them. A great way to remain calm when in their company would be to put yourself in their shoes, as this will build empathy and will help to keep you focused on achieving a positive outcome when you least want to continue such a demanding and challenging task.

To be able to understand their mind-set will require considerable amounts of patience and foresight - both of which will be easily obtained with enough follow through. Things become a little more testing when there are other family members who do not share your same level of enthusiasm and will actively seek to argue or punish the passive aggressive relative.

They do this because of a lack of understanding, and so, they must be helped to see the constructive side of your intentions to help and support your relative and how the end result is for everyone to benefit - ensuring them that your methods are not linked to any kind of favouritism -but instead are directed at a positive and beneficial result for all. There is much benefit of getting the other, more aggressive and less tolerant family members to see your intentions for what they really are. Their agreement would half the difficulty surrounding the situation on a whole, and as the old cliche goes; "many hands make light work."

This is true, to say the least. A team effort (especially where loved ones are involved) halves the burden that one individual would have to carry alone - even with all the good intent, the task would be draining and demanding, but more manageable when shared. Also, another mind will see the situation from a different angle, and this helps with creativity and new input.

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