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Introduction
Many people dream of being successful, yet they never achieve it. At times we have all failed. There are many reasons why you may feel like a failure or that you will never be a success. These are some of the reasons you might recognize for your own failures:
1. Procrastination
It's normal to procrastinate a little, but often we put off doing difficult or unpleasant tasks that we have to do and end up sabotaging ourselves. Procrastination is the number one thing to fix if you want to be successful. Your mindset will suffer when you procrastinate because you're not thinking about being productive or about moving towards your goals; in fact you're doing the opposite by avoiding that.
2. Fear
Fear of failure and fear of success can both stop you from achieving high level success. Success means change, setting new goals, and a defined line between before and after. This fear is what prevents your mind from being in the right mindset for success. Sometimes we're even guilty of sabotaging ourselves (through procrastination or other means) so that we “prove” our fears right by not being successful.
A fear mindset is one where everything is seen as too risky or too dangerous which means you'll never move forwards. Conquering the fear mindset is the hardest thing for many people who are not naturally optimistic or courageous.
3. Being Unrealistic
Part of dreaming about being successful is that it hasn't happened yet. When we imagine things it can be both good or bad. Those dreams can drive us to achieve further or they can always be just out of reach so we eventually give up because we never achieve them.
Setting the right goals and being able to motivate yourself is important in being successful because if you set unrealistic goals you'll always feel like a failure. There's a very good analogy about teaching fish to climb trees which illustrates this. If you think you're always a failure then maybe it's because you're setting the wrong goals.
4. Being unsure of your path
Part of success is knowing where you're going. You might have a vision of where you want to be but no real understanding of how to get there. Without having an idea of your route you may freeze up, instead choosing to stay in a “safe” and known place rather than risk the change that may come with success or the shame of taking yourself down a failed pathway.
If you're not sure about the next step are you sure you've even taken one? Many people struggle to even start their journey or get bogged down without realizing how close to the finish they are. Imagine you were chipping away at a wall, you've been chipping forever and don't feel like you will ever make it through so you quit. What you didn't know is that with only 5 more chips you would have made it. How sad.
If you want to be successful then you need a success mindset and you have to tackle these behaviours and more if you want that to happen. Change can be difficult, it can be hard, but by changing these behaviours using these simple ways you can start cultivating the right mindset to be successful.
Be Willing to Change
There is nothing more threatening to a success mindset than not being able to change. If you cannot change you cannot be anything more than what you already are and therefore cannot be successful.
To be successful you have to be able to embrace change but you also have to be able to accept things as they come. On your journey there will be failures, there will be successes, there will be change and there will be surprises or things you didn't plan for. To have a success mindset you need to cultivate your ability to adapt to change and to be more accepting which will help stop you being afraid of success.
Step 1: Embrace Opportunities
Imagine you're home alone and your friends are busy. You have the opportunity to go out and see your favourite band, but you'll be on your own. Do you take it?
Many of us have more opportunities than we realize but we don't take them because of fear. We're afraid of being ridiculed, of people assuming something in our actions, or we're simply afraid that the opportunities we see aren't real. Many times what we imagine in our on heads doesn't live up to the reality and that can be a scary thing.
If you want to develop the right mindset for success you have to start confronting your fears and jumping at every opportunity, even if it might mean failure.
Step 2: Accept Everything, even Failure
We all fail. Failure sucks. We feel miserable, people laugh at us, and it's something we want to avoid because we don't like that feeling. The sooner you can accept that sometimes failure is inevitable and even necessary the easier it is to accept change and stop being afraid of success.
Acceptance is not resignation. Acceptance means that you know no matter what your actions and their outcomes are moving you constantly forwards. Any action that does that is bringing you closer to success.
Imagine success as a road you're walking down. The road has obstacles, tree branches or maybe worse. You may fall, you may be able to step over them, or you may have to walk around because the road is blocked and find another way. Every step you take, even if it's to go around one of those obstacles still brings you one step closer to your destination.
The only time this stops being true is when you give up or turn back because you're choosing to move away from success and choosing to fail. That doesn't mean that sometimes the road doesn't take you backwards. Sometimes you have to step backwards to get to a different route but it's the keeping going which will make the difference between ultimately being successful or not.
Step 3: Conquer Fear
By no longer being afraid you will not see change as something to be scared of or avoided. When you procrastinate because you're not sure you want the change success brings you can't ever succeed so you simply have to choose to conquer your fear.
Start by understanding what it is that is making you afraid. Are you afraid of the change? Are you afraid of failure? By understanding what the obstacle is you'll be better prepared to work around it because it has a name.
Practice getting around that. You can imagine the situation in your head and role play with yourself through it. You can even roleplay how you would handle failure to reassure yourself. The worst thing you can do is let the fear win by doing nothing. The first way to change if you're going to be successful is to actually be willing to change and embrace that change when it happens. You can do it!
See Failure As Success
The great Chinese General Sun Tsu wrote a book on war tactics. While you may not be waging a battle, much of his advice can be applied to life situations. One of his most powerful pieces was to see failures as a form of success.
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